Lohan and the art of (avoiding) mean girls

[MickBeth]

Lindsay Lohan knows firsthand we can't all get along all the time.

Up until recently she has been involved in a public feud with Hilary Duff. It ended a few months ago when Lohan extended an olive branch by declaring a truce on “Good Morning America.”

Here, the star of “Mean Girls” shares her views on the art of high school war and how to get along:

Stay happy by refusing to let others define you:

“Don't change who you are to be accepted. I think in high school it's difficult for people now. They just want to kind of be popular and they'll change who they are for other people to like them. And it's not satisfying, in the end.”

If you don't have anything nice to say — be careful who hears you say it:

What you say to your best friend may not stay with your best friend. Or you may be wrong about where your “best friend's” sympathies lie. “Don't talk about someone behind their back ... because they'll find out eventually,” Lohan said.

Don't spread nasty gossip unless you're ready to get the same in return:

What goes around comes around, Lohan said. “I think people who are insecure tend to talk about other people to hide their own insecurities.”

Seek advice from those who've been there:

Although you may not want parents or an older sibling to fight your battles, they can still help indirectly without causing you to lose face, Lohan said. Moms and dads can offer advice by recalling their steps and missteps in childhood fights: “Adults have been through high school and that's something for them to look back on and teach their kids to help them through it.”

Don't be afraid to wave a white flag:

Surrender and make peace, as Lohan did with Hilary Duff. It takes two to fight, so even if your opponent retains hard feelings you'll be free of the conflict. In many cases two people who fight become best friends by making up. “It's always crazy when you're fighting with someone, but it's funny. After, you laugh at it,” Lohan said.

Remember, apologizing can be a show of strength:

“If you did something to offend someone, don't deny what you did,” Lohan said. Everybody has been wronged, and everybody feels right. Try to see things from the other person's perspective and don't make excuses.

Don't be a pushover:

Some fights are justified. If you're locked in battle with a bad person, don't try to enflame them — but don't back down either. “Give them a chance, three strikes and you're out,” Lohan said.

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thanx what she said would work if any body would use it but prob not o well what can u do

Wise words from Linds!!! :D