MY friends here on Fanhost, pls help me!!

John Lennon · 11-05-2007, 07:50 AM

I know this might look weird for some on why do I need to post this here on forum but I know some will lend a big help... probably advices too. I hope Trotter would let me post this even for a while..

Now I’m in my 3rd year in College, since then I never had friends, friends who I can be with or hang out with. Someone who can accompany me and who will be like my best friend, though I never want to use that term. I had some folks who have been like my friends since day 1 in College but just this last semester I met what yet to be my closest friend or best friend perhaps. He was like me in some ways. We do hang outs lots than anyone and like the closest friend I ever had yet.

Of course I was happy b’coz finally I got someone who can be my best colleague.

We had this plan of going out after the semester.. like hanging out with only our group. We composed of around 10 members only in our group. What I always remind them is not to invite some other in our class since I’m not comfortable being with some folks aside from them.

Suddenly, my friend posted a bulletin board and texted the whole class inviting them on our group trip. I was mad.. I get mad.. bcoz I always reminded him to not invite anyone.. and instead have our groups enjoy the trip. So I reacted in some ways. He felt bad too after the outburst of my anger.

After days, I was like.. OK, I would say sorry.. I don’t care about my pride anymore.. bcoz I do treasured our friendship. He accepted it but in some ways.. I felt like he’s been cold to me.. and wasn’t the same as b4. Can you help me guys? Coz I remember Love do love answering these friendship questions in TEEN Magazine in late 90’s Help me pls.. any advices? Thanks a lot!!

JL

angelbunny225 · 11-05-2007, 11:28 AM

OMG...I hope it will work out for ya!

Sorry...I've never had problems like this yet...so I really don't know what to do in situations like this.... I don't know...mabe he's still sad...and you just have to talk about it!

Hope somebody can help ya!

**Trotter** · 11-05-2007, 01:34 PM

Hi John

Thank-you for your post, I hope we don't only come here to share our love for Love but we can also come here to help and support each other.

After reading your post I don't think you have done anything wrong, I find it hard to understand how or why a friend as close as the one you have posted on the bulletin board without asking you first.

Maybe he didn't know how much this trip meant to you and how you only wanted your group to be there.

The only advice I can give you is don't keep things bottled up, if your not happy tell him why, if he is as closer friend as you say I'm sure he will understand.

He might not know how much he upset you, sit down talk and clear the air it really is the only way.

Good Luck

Dave

SarahLove · 11-05-2007, 02:35 PM

I'm sorry John, real friends are hard to find, I hope you can sort things out.

John Lennon · 11-05-2007, 02:37 PM

wow.. thanks a lot angelbunny and Trotter..

I'm so lucky having online friends like you two who I met of course through this forum and seems like with Love, we build friendships too..

actually the trip really meant a lot to me.. coz we've planned it for about 3 months and eagerly anticipated the semester's break. either way I said sorry already if I've done anything wrong but when we chatted up online.. I think something has changed.. not sure if I'm just paranoid..

anyway.. thank you guys!!! God bless!! Hope one day I would help you too with your problems!!

John Lennon · 11-05-2007, 02:42 PM

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Originally Posted by SarahLove

I'm sorry John, real friends are hard to find, I hope you can sort things out.

yeah.. you know I never had solid friends.. and he's yet to be the closest one I ever got..and hopefully he'll be like my best colleague coz I think he's a nice person, I really do.. this is something I wish for Christmas.. I don't asked for any material things.. Having a friend like him is a gift.. and having more friends is a bonus..

I love Delia's 1st Ghost Episode... that is a teary episode.. about friendship right?!

**andrew r** · 11-05-2007, 03:27 PM

Good to see that it's working out for you John. If you need to share anything again, jsut post it up.

John Lennon · 11-05-2007, 11:58 PM

thanks folks!! I hope we can too help some other.. thanks a lot!!

**Trotter** · 11-06-2007, 12:10 PM

No problem John, I hope you work things out.

KevinButler · 11-06-2007, 12:35 PM

I've got a two-parted answer for you. Part one, the answers are usually right in front of us. Part two, you may not realize the value of an open-mind.

Why do you need to monopolize this friend for yourself? The way I see it is that you need to have some very strong reasons to exclude people. If you do then you have nothing to worry about. If you are excluding because you feel you'll get lost in the competition then I'm sorry but it sounds like you have disappointment headed your way.

On the bright side disappointment builds character and other doors do open, John.

__________________________________

"Far better it is to dare mighty things, win glorious triumphs,
Even though checkered by failure,
Than to rank with the poor souls who neither enjoy nor suffer much,
Because they live in the grey twilight that knows neither victory nor defeat"

Thomas Jefferson

11-05-2007, 07:50 AM	#1 (permalink)
John Lennon Lennon & Co Join Date: Oct 2005 Location: Philippines Posts: 975 My Profile	MY friends here on Fanhost, pls help me!! I know this might look weird for some on why do I need to post this here on forum but I know some will lend a big help... probably advices too. I hope Trotter would let me post this even for a while.. Now I’m in my 3rd year in College, since then I never had friends, friends who I can be with or hang out with. Someone who can accompany me and who will be like my best friend, though I never want to use that term. I had some folks who have been like my friends since day 1 in College but just this last semester I met what yet to be my closest friend or best friend perhaps. He was like me in some ways. We do hang outs lots than anyone and like the closest friend I ever had yet. Of course I was happy b’coz finally I got someone who can be my best colleague. We had this plan of going out after the semester.. like hanging out with only our group. We composed of around 10 members only in our group. What I always remind them is not to invite some other in our class since I’m not comfortable being with some folks aside from them. Suddenly, my friend posted a bulletin board and texted the whole class inviting them on our group trip. I was mad.. I get mad.. bcoz I always reminded him to not invite anyone.. and instead have our groups enjoy the trip. So I reacted in some ways. He felt bad too after the outburst of my anger. After days, I was like.. OK, I would say sorry.. I don’t care about my pride anymore.. bcoz I do treasured our friendship. He accepted it but in some ways.. I felt like he’s been cold to me.. and wasn’t the same as b4. Can you help me guys? Coz I remember Love do love answering these friendship questions in TEEN Magazine in late 90’s Help me pls.. any advices? Thanks a lot!! JL

11-05-2007, 02:37 PM	#5 (permalink)
John Lennon Lennon & Co Join Date: Oct 2005 Location: Philippines Posts: 975 My Profile	wow.. thanks a lot angelbunny and Trotter.. I'm so lucky having online friends like you two who I met of course through this forum and seems like with Love, we build friendships too.. actually the trip really meant a lot to me.. coz we've planned it for about 3 months and eagerly anticipated the semester's break. either way I said sorry already if I've done anything wrong but when we chatted up online.. I think something has changed.. not sure if I'm just paranoid.. anyway.. thank you guys!!! God bless!! Hope one day I would help you too with your problems!! Last edited by John Lennon : 11-05-2007 at 02:39 PM.

11-05-2007, 11:28 AM	#2 (permalink)
angelbunny225 Do you think I'm nuts? Join Date: Dec 2006 Location: in the middle of nowhere... Posts: 6,941 My Profile	OMG...I hope it will work out for ya! Sorry...I've never had problems like this yet...so I really don't know what to do in situations like this.... I don't know...mabe he's still sad...and you just have to talk about it! Hope somebody can help ya!

11-05-2007, 01:34 PM	#3 (permalink)
Trotter JLH Nut Join Date: Jun 2002 Location: Sydenham,London Posts: 28,982 My Profile	Hi John Thank-you for your post, I hope we don't only come here to share our love for Love but we can also come here to help and support each other. After reading your post I don't think you have done anything wrong, I find it hard to understand how or why a friend as close as the one you have posted on the bulletin board without asking you first. Maybe he didn't know how much this trip meant to you and how you only wanted your group to be there. The only advice I can give you is don't keep things bottled up, if your not happy tell him why, if he is as closer friend as you say I'm sure he will understand. He might not know how much he upset you, sit down talk and clear the air it really is the only way. Good Luck Dave

11-05-2007, 02:35 PM	#4 (permalink)
SarahLove Sister Of JLH Nut Join Date: Oct 2005 Location: Sydenham,London Posts: 11,117 My Profile	I'm sorry John, real friends are hard to find, I hope you can sort things out.

11-05-2007, 03:27 PM	#7 (permalink)
andrew r Moderator Join Date: Aug 2002 Location: England Posts: 31,548 My Profile	Good to see that it's working out for you John. If you need to share anything again, jsut post it up.

11-05-2007, 11:58 PM	#8 (permalink)
John Lennon Lennon & Co Join Date: Oct 2005 Location: Philippines Posts: 975 My Profile	thanks folks!! I hope we can too help some other.. thanks a lot!!

11-06-2007, 12:10 PM	#9 (permalink)
Trotter JLH Nut Join Date: Jun 2002 Location: Sydenham,London Posts: 28,982 My Profile	No problem John, I hope you work things out.

11-06-2007, 12:35 PM	#10 (permalink)
KevinButler Junior Member Join Date: Jun 2006 Location: Toronto, Canada Posts: 222 My Profile	I've got a two-parted answer for you. Part one, the answers are usually right in front of us. Part two, you may not realize the value of an open-mind. Why do you need to monopolize this friend for yourself? The way I see it is that you need to have some very strong reasons to exclude people. If you do then you have nothing to worry about. If you are excluding because you feel you'll get lost in the competition then I'm sorry but it sounds like you have disappointment headed your way. On the bright side disappointment builds character and other doors do open, John. __________________________________ "Far better it is to dare mighty things, win glorious triumphs, Even though checkered by failure, Than to rank with the poor souls who neither enjoy nor suffer much, Because they live in the grey twilight that knows neither victory nor defeat" Thomas Jefferson

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