For no specific reason, but what if...?

Looking4Love · 10-20-2005, 03:17 AM

What if Love got married? Would you change how you follow her? Would the person she married matter to you (other than wanting him to be good to/for her)? Are there any specific ways that you would change about how you keep up with Love?

I’m sure the answers will vary between guys and gals, too. The guys, I’m thinking will be less worried about whom she marries, just that it’s not them. The gals, on the other hand, would probably be more interested in who he is, if he’s cute, and all of that.

I’m in no way suggesting that she’s anywhere close to matrimony, and if/whenever she were, I’d probably find out about it here. This is purely hypothetical. Please keep that in mind.

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It would change things for me somewhat. While I’m certainly a fan of her many talents and the work she does with them, my main interest in her is personal. I’m not saving myself for her or anything, and I know that it’s a very, very, very…remote possibility that I’d even meet her, and that it’d be even more unlikely that the meeting would lead to anything else. I do have an interest in her personal life because I’d like to be apart of it. Of course, I want her to be happy, and I would be happy for her should she marry. I’d just be sad for me.

It really wouldn’t matter to me whom she married. If it’s not me, then whoever it is must be good enough for her or else she wouldn’t be with him. I’d be jealous, but still happy for them. I’m not likely to know the guy, so I wouldn’t really be able to properly assess his worthiness of Love (as if anyone is worthy ;) ).

If he were someone that you approved of (however that process would work for you), would that make a difference? If you did like the guy, would you change your ‘Love habits’ differently? Obviously we’d all rather like the guy than not, but how would it change your monitoring of Love if you were more favorable to her betrothed?

When it got around that Love and Scott were dating (and I don’t know if they still are or not, I’m still waiting on the press conference…lol), he got a lot of criticism on the board. It got so bad that the moderators had to take action. I don’t know Scott, and I’m not likely to know whoever else it might be, so it wouldn’t matter to me. There must be something there for Love to be with him.

I'd be less inclined to keep up with her day to day personal life and focus more on her work. I am still a big fan of her singing and acting, but I wouldn’t be as interested in out-and-about sightings or things that aren’t related to her projects, though. I’d still wish her well in everything she does, but I’d just be less interested in her non-working life since I’d be even less likely to be part of it.

The thing that hooked me on being a fan of Love is that she’s someone I’d like to know even if she weren’t famous. I probably wouldn’t have any way of knowing that if she weren’t a celebrity, but she is and here we are ;) . Her fame isn’t really a big deal to me. It has its perks and its detriments, but other than it being how I know of her, I couldn’t care less that she’s famous. She’s not affected by the notoriety, but rather accepts it as part of her career and her life and she deals with it very, very well. She just acts like a ‘normal’ person who just happens to be well-known. She also does a lot of charity work, which is quite commendable. To me, she’s a cool person—beautiful, talented, genuine, and so much more—that I’d like to get to know a lot better. If she got married, that (extremely unlikely) possibility would no longer be.

The man she picks would be very lucky to say the least. I’d just be a bit jealous that it’s not me, but still happy for them both. I wouldn’t root for them to split, either, but if they did…

herbertlens · 10-20-2005, 04:53 AM

I figure one day she will be married with children. Because I like her for more than just her looks I don't think that will stop me being a fan... I'll be older then too.

I guess I don't entertain any serious fantasies of being with her so I wouldn't get jealous (although the occasional daydream is fun).

Its different for other celebs that I like simply because I think they are hot. For example her getting married killed my attraction to Britney Spears. [img]graemlins/spin.gif[/img]

JenniferNoble · 10-20-2005, 05:05 AM

nice idea of a topic!!!

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What if Love got married? Would you change how you follow her? Would the person she married matter to you (other than wanting him to be good to/for her)? Are there any specific ways that you would change about how you keep up with Love?

I would LOVE to see her getting married. she's such a sweet, happy, cheerful and innocent person, it would be just lovely to see a great, smart (and cute ofcourse) guy looking out for her. She seems to be a hopeless romantic, just like myself and all she deserves is someone who loves her for who she is and not for what she is (famous actress/singer). It wouldnt change my view of her in a negative way at all. i'd probably start to see her as an even bigger rolemodel (if thats possible ;) )

ofcourse it would matter who she'd marry. i seriously dont want her to get into one of those Jennifer Lopez kind of marriages (no offence). i think the best would be if she dated someone who is in the buiseness also, so he can understands what she's going through (again no offence this is just my opinion). oooh i know. i would love to see her in some kind of Freddie Prince, jr- Sarah Michelle Gellar relationship. they've been together for like 2 or 3 years, then he proposed and a year later they got married. they keep everything for themselves and personally i think this is a "till death do us part" marriage. [img]smile.gif[/img]

though Scott is kinda cute too, i think, as you all said before, he looked a little uninterested. maybe it's an act, maybe not. we will never know.

just want her to be happy with a man who's happy with her aswell.

JenniferNoble · 10-20-2005, 05:06 AM

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Originally posted by herbertlens:

Its different for other celebs that I like simply because I think they are hot. For example her getting married killed my attraction to Britney Spears. [img]graemlins/spin.gif[/img]

that;s probably because she also added at least 50 pounds ;)

10-20-2005, 11:05 AM

I guess when you like someone. All you want is to see them as happy as possible.

Love deserves to find happines with a fine young man who will show her love and respect.

I don't think that it is important if he is cute, but I do think it is important that he treats her right.

My feelings one this subject is not unlike the feeling that I would have about say the daughter of one of my close friends

Figue · 10-20-2005, 11:18 AM

To me, the respect and love that i have for her will not vary because i admire her for what she is, her values, her desires, her sense of humor, her loveliness and the wonderful woman she is as a whole. (if i describe all the marvelous things she is, i'll never finish)

If she gets married, i would wish her the very best of the best in her matrimony. I will definitely wish it last for their entire lifes as it's supposed to be and i'll continue to support her like always have. I just want her to be the happiest woman she can ever be because she deserves it. [img]smile.gif[/img]

Thanks Looking4love!, this is a very nice and interesting topic!

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[ October 20, 2005, 10:20 AM: Message edited by: Figue ]

10-20-2005, 01:40 PM

A person in Holly Golightly's shoes (such as
Love or Audrey Hepburn) should perhaps NEVER
get married UNLESS they can find a hybrid,
renaissance man.

That is, a person who can appear to be both
old and young at the same time...that's because
somebody in Golightly's shoes didn't have a
father. For such a woman, there is a DUAL
attraction: both to guys her own age, AND to
a father-figure.

It's a paradox. Holly couldn't solve it. Audrey
couldn't solve it. JLH's possible answer is to
"Stay Single" like her T-shirt says...unless
this special man is found!

**andrew r** · 10-20-2005, 02:19 PM

I think I'd like it. I've been a fan of Sarah for years now and I've got nothing against FPJ (except he's very lucky), as Sarah's very happily in love with him. So if she's happy, then I am.

I guess I'll be a little sad if Love does get married, but if he makes her happy then as I said before, that's fine by me. As all I can hope for is that she's completely happy in her relationship with her man.

Plus, if it's a high profile wedding (though I feel Love will try to keep it as private and personal as possible), I'm sure that it won't be anything like Peter Andre and Jordan's wedding (yuck!).

I'm sure that Love will find her man, sooner or later. So I say good luck to her.

Preston Meyers · 10-20-2005, 02:43 PM

if she ever gets married, i would just feel like she's further away from me, i don't know why. but hey, i just hope if she gets married that it's with a guy that gives her all the love ,attention and respect she deserves.

**Trotter** · 10-20-2005, 03:04 PM

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I've read so many articles when Love said how she has planned out her wedding day.

I've read how one day she dreams of meeting the man who is going to be the 'one' for her.

So I REALLY hope and pray that one day she finds the man of her dreams and has the wedding of her dreams.

My feelings for her will not change one bit, and I would be SO happy for her.... [img]smile.gif[/img]

LOVE YOUNG GIFTED & GORGEOUS

i love love · 10-20-2005, 04:54 PM

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Originally posted by ronald33:
UNLESS they can find a hybrid,
renaissance man.

I just grew one of those in a petrie dish just the other day so there's still hope for the Brundle Fly/Hepburn Clone.

Now, back in the real world...

Love will probably find someone, nice people like her always do. Far from jealous here, as a matter of fact I route her on, it will be interesting to see the man of her dreams, the only drawback being the slight chance she would fade from the public eye as she has a family. That wouldn't surprise me either, caring people tend to do just that.

[ October 21, 2005, 01:20 AM: Message edited by: i love love ]

10-20-2005, 09:16 PM

My opinion of Love wouldn't change if she was married... I just hope she isn't the kind who "takes a break" to raise her children!

JenniferNoble · 10-21-2005, 03:33 AM

didnt Madonna do that? or was it Demi? hmm cant remember but they both made a great comeback.

Looking4Love · 10-21-2005, 04:24 AM

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Originally posted by JenniferNoble:
didnt Madonna do that? or was it Demi? hmm cant remember but they both made a great comeback.

They both did, but Demi's break was more hardcore. She moved to Idaho and basically didn't do any acting. She was involved in a bit of producing, I think, but nothing that forced her to be away. Too, besides touring, it would be easier Madonna to be around for the kids.

One can work and still be around for his/her children. What would have more of an effect is the actual pregnancy. If/When Love gets to that point, I'm sure she'll find the right balance for her and her family.

JenniferNoble · 10-21-2005, 01:19 PM

lol i just cant imagine Love with the big tummy [img]tongue.gif[/img]

10-21-2005, 02:01 PM

I like her personality and not care so much that she´s a celebrity. But without her famous I´d propably wouldn´t even know her.
If she gets married or starts seeing somebody, it would be public thing because she´s famous. And it would be okay to mee, maybe little akward at first and I propably would be jealous for that lucky guy...

**Trotter** · 10-21-2005, 02:49 PM

[img]smile.gif[/img]
As long as she is happy that's ALL that matters, and if she does take a break think of all the wonderful years we would have to look back on..... [img]smile.gif[/img]

LOVE YOUNG GIFTED & GORGEOUS

10-23-2005, 07:06 PM

This is actually a good topic of conversation here. Unlike ILL I'd like to first say Ronald's thoughts posted here have more merit and value than you give him credit for and in my private e-mail inbox I have proof of this (in the e-mail conversations Ron and I have both had). Fact is, he knows more than you think and is a better person than you believe. I just wish you wouldn't fall for everything ILL and Skill say about the man. He knows more than you give him credit for (Hint: you ever heard of Peter Hurkos? Well you should cause he was the greatest psychic of all time. Ron had a meeting with him in the 70's and much of what Ron says JLH related came from a meeting he had with this great man in the 70's...before JLH was born). I'd like to go further but better I don't to not break Ron's confidence in me about said things. However if you would like to know more just PM.

Now onto the other issues of the day. Would my following of JLH being a fan of hers change if she got married? Not really. Because to begin I'm NOT "over the edge" in my feelings of fandom over this person (much like Skill is). I keep those feelings very rational and respectable. Hell, if I saw her on the streets of Santa Barbara I'd likely turn tail, walk away and disappear into the crowd (like I am incredibly good at doing BTW) or change my route if I was going somewhere in her path so that we wouldn't cross paths. So in that sense that oughta tell you that I am also a little intimidated by her (or any female celeb within my age range if I was in their presence).

So no it wouldn't change. I'd just feel good from afar about Jennifer's choice as long as I knew ahead of time that the guy she married wasn't a total sleazebag! Other parts of my opinion for at least parts 1 and 2 of this segment was something Looking4Love already said so thanks for that Looking4Love! Well, that's my dime. I am out!

i love love · 10-23-2005, 10:06 PM

I have no interest in someone's meeting with a psychic. Love portraying Hepburn doesn't mean anything more than Love portraying Hepburn in a tv movie. A Golightly fixation? OK, fine, there's all kinds out there.

We can't report certain factual things due to it's stalker nature, and they're not rumors or innuendo. You have every right to defend another poster, you won't find other posters agreeing that Love should possibly just stay single and look for hybrid lovers. You haven't been here long enough to have witnessed certain remarks in the past.

Luckily the board no longer allows boyfriend discussions, so it cut short so many mindless remarks from the boyfriend haters.

10-24-2005, 02:46 AM

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Originally posted by RareAir23:
This is actually a good topic of conversation here. Unlike ILL I'd like to first say Ronald's thoughts posted here have more merit and value than you give him credit for and in my private e-mail inbox I have proof of this (in the e-mail conversations Ron and I have both had). Fact is, he knows more than you think and is a better person than you believe. I just wish you wouldn't fall for everything ILL and Skill say about the man. He knows more than you give him credit for (Hint: you ever heard of Peter Hurkos? Well you should cause he was the greatest psychic of all time. Ron had a meeting with him in the 70's and much of what Ron says JLH related came from a meeting he had with this great man in the 70's...before JLH was born). I'd like to go further but better I don't to not break Ron's confidence in me about said things. However if you would like to know more just PM.

priceless!

10-20-2005, 03:17 AM	#1 (permalink)
Looking4Love Senior Member Join Date: Jul 2004 Location: Indianapolis, IN, U.S.A. Posts: 7,824 My Profile	What if Love got married? Would you change how you follow her? Would the person she married matter to you (other than wanting him to be good to/for her)? Are there any specific ways that you would change about how you keep up with Love? I’m sure the answers will vary between guys and gals, too. The guys, I’m thinking will be less worried about whom she marries, just that it’s not them. The gals, on the other hand, would probably be more interested in who he is, if he’s cute, and all of that. I’m in no way suggesting that she’s anywhere close to matrimony, and if/whenever she were, I’d probably find out about it here. This is purely hypothetical. Please* keep that in mind.* ---------------- It would change things for me somewhat. While I’m certainly a fan of her many talents and the work she does with them, my main interest in her is personal. I’m not saving myself for her or anything, and I know that it’s a very, very, very…remote possibility that I’d even meet her, and that it’d be even more unlikely that the meeting would lead to anything else. I do have an interest in her personal life because I’d like to be apart of it. Of course, I want her to be happy, and I would be happy for her should she marry. I’d just be sad for me. It really wouldn’t matter to me whom she married. If it’s not me, then whoever it is must be good enough for her or else she wouldn’t be with him. I’d be jealous, but still happy for them. I’m not likely to know the guy, so I wouldn’t really be able to properly assess his worthiness of Love (as if anyone is worthy ;) ). If he were someone that you approved of (however that process would work for you), would that make a difference? If you did like the guy, would you change your ‘Love habits’ differently? Obviously we’d all rather like the guy than not, but how would it change your monitoring of Love if you were more favorable to her betrothed? When it got around that Love and Scott were dating (and I don’t know if they still are or not, I’m still waiting on the press conference…lol), he got a lot of criticism on the board. It got so bad that the moderators had to take action. I don’t know Scott, and I’m not likely to know whoever else it might be, so it wouldn’t matter to me. There must be something there for Love to be with him. I'd be less inclined to keep up with her day to day personal life and focus more on her work. I am still a big fan of her singing and acting, but I wouldn’t be as interested in out-and-about sightings or things that aren’t related to her projects, though. I’d still wish her well in everything she does, but I’d just be less interested in her non-working life since I’d be even less likely to be part of it. The thing that hooked me on being a fan of Love is that she’s someone I’d like to know even if she weren’t famous. I probably wouldn’t have any way of knowing that if she weren’t a celebrity, but she is and here we are ;) . Her fame isn’t really a big deal to me. It has its perks and its detriments, but other than it being how I know of her, I couldn’t care less that she’s famous. She’s not affected by the notoriety, but rather accepts it as part of her career and her life and she deals with it very, very well. She just acts like a ‘normal’ person who just happens to be well-known. She also does a lot of charity work, which is quite commendable. To me, she’s a cool person—beautiful, talented, genuine, and so much more—that I’d like to get to know a lot better. If she got married, that (extremely unlikely) possibility would no longer be. The man she picks would be very lucky to say the least. I’d just be a bit jealous that it’s not me, but still happy for them both. I wouldn’t root for them to split, either, but if they did…

10-20-2005, 04:53 AM	#2 (permalink)
herbertlens Goat Whisperer Join Date: May 2004 Location: California Posts: 1,265 My Profile	I figure one day she will be married with children. Because I like her for more than just her looks I don't think that will stop me being a fan... I'll be older then too. I guess I don't entertain any serious fantasies of being with her so I wouldn't get jealous (although the occasional daydream is fun). Its different for other celebs that I like simply because I think they are hot. For example her getting married killed my attraction to Britney Spears. [img]graemlins/spin.gif[/img]

10-20-2005, 11:05 AM	#5 (permalink)
Bjorn Felding Guest Posts: n/a	I guess when you like someone. All you want is to see them as happy as possible. Love deserves to find happines with a fine young man who will show her love and respect. I don't think that it is important if he is cute, but I do think it is important that he treats her right. My feelings one this subject is not unlike the feeling that I would have about say the daughter of one of my close friends

10-20-2005, 11:18 AM	#6 (permalink)
Figue Senior Member Join Date: Jun 2005 Posts: 1,334 My Profile	To me, the respect and love that i have for her will not vary because i admire her for what she is, her values, her desires, her sense of humor, her loveliness and the wonderful woman she is as a whole. (if i describe all the marvelous things she is, i'll never finish) If she gets married, i would wish her the very best of the best in her matrimony. I will definitely wish it last for their entire lifes as it's supposed to be and i'll continue to support her like always have. I just want her to be the happiest woman she can ever be because she deserves it. [img]smile.gif[/img] Thanks Looking4love!, this is a very nice and interesting topic! [img]graemlins/thumbs.gif[/img] [ October 20, 2005, 10:20 AM: Message edited by: Figue ]

10-20-2005, 01:40 PM	#7 (permalink)
ronald33 Guest Posts: n/a	A person in Holly Golightly's shoes (such as Love or Audrey Hepburn) should perhaps NEVER get married UNLESS they can find a hybrid, renaissance man. That is, a person who can appear to be both old and young at the same time...that's because somebody in Golightly's shoes didn't have a father. For such a woman, there is a DUAL attraction: both to guys her own age, AND to a father-figure. It's a paradox. Holly couldn't solve it. Audrey couldn't solve it. JLH's possible answer is to "Stay Single" like her T-shirt says...unless this special man is found!

10-20-2005, 02:19 PM	#8 (permalink)
andrew r Moderator Join Date: Aug 2002 Location: England Posts: 43,222 My Profile	I think I'd like it. I've been a fan of Sarah for years now and I've got nothing against FPJ (except he's very lucky), as Sarah's very happily in love with him. So if she's happy, then I am. I guess I'll be a little sad if Love does get married, but if he makes her happy then as I said before, that's fine by me. As all I can hope for is that she's completely happy in her relationship with her man. Plus, if it's a high profile wedding (though I feel Love will try to keep it as private and personal as possible), I'm sure that it won't be anything like Peter Andre and Jordan's wedding (yuck!). I'm sure that Love will find her man, sooner or later. So I say good luck to her.

10-20-2005, 02:43 PM	#9 (permalink)
Preston Meyers It's only words... Join Date: Jul 2005 Location: The Belgian wasteland... Posts: 2,246 My Profile	if she ever gets married, i would just feel like she's further away from me, i don't know why. but hey, i just hope if she gets married that it's with a guy that gives her all the love ,attention and respect she deserves.

10-20-2005, 03:04 PM	#10 (permalink)
Trotter JLH Nut Join Date: Jun 2002 Location: Sydenham,London Posts: 42,100 My Profile	[img]smile.gif[/img] I've read so many articles when Love said how she has planned out her wedding day. I've read how one day she dreams of meeting the man who is going to be the 'one' for her. So I REALLY hope and pray that one day she finds the man of her dreams and has the wedding of her dreams. My feelings for her will not change one bit, and I would be SO happy for her.... [img]smile.gif[/img] LOVE YOUNG GIFTED & GORGEOUS

10-20-2005, 09:16 PM	#12 (permalink)
MCfan4eaa Guest Posts: n/a	My opinion of Love wouldn't change if she was married... I just hope she isn't the kind who "takes a break" to raise her children!

10-21-2005, 03:33 AM	#13 (permalink)
JenniferNoble Lovely Join Date: Jun 2004 Location: the Netherlands Posts: 4,652 My Profile	didnt Madonna do that? or was it Demi? hmm cant remember but they both made a great comeback.

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10-21-2005, 01:19 PM	#15 (permalink)
JenniferNoble Lovely Join Date: Jun 2004 Location: the Netherlands Posts: 4,652 My Profile	lol i just cant imagine Love with the big tummy [img]tongue.gif[/img]

10-21-2005, 02:01 PM	#16 (permalink)
MMac Guest Posts: n/a	I like her personality and not care so much that she´s a celebrity. But without her famous I´d propably wouldn´t even know her. If she gets married or starts seeing somebody, it would be public thing because she´s famous. And it would be okay to mee, maybe little akward at first and I propably would be jealous for that lucky guy...

10-21-2005, 02:49 PM	#17 (permalink)
Trotter JLH Nut Join Date: Jun 2002 Location: Sydenham,London Posts: 42,100 My Profile	[img]smile.gif[/img] As long as she is happy that's ALL that matters, and if she does take a break think of all the wonderful years we would have to look back on..... [img]smile.gif[/img] LOVE YOUNG GIFTED & GORGEOUS

10-23-2005, 07:06 PM	#18 (permalink)
RareAir23 Guest Posts: n/a	This is actually a good topic of conversation here. Unlike ILL I'd like to first say Ronald's thoughts posted here have more merit and value than you give him credit for and in my private e-mail inbox I have proof of this (in the e-mail conversations Ron and I have both had). Fact is, he knows more than you think and is a better person than you believe. I just wish you wouldn't fall for everything ILL and Skill say about the man. He knows more than you give him credit for (Hint: you ever heard of Peter Hurkos? Well you should cause he was the greatest psychic of all time. Ron had a meeting with him in the 70's and much of what Ron says JLH related came from a meeting he had with this great man in the 70's...before JLH was born). I'd like to go further but better I don't to not break Ron's confidence in me about said things. However if you would like to know more just PM. Now onto the other issues of the day. Would my following of JLH being a fan of hers change if she got married? Not really. Because to begin I'm NOT "over the edge" in my feelings of fandom over this person (much like Skill is). I keep those feelings very rational and respectable. Hell, if I saw her on the streets of Santa Barbara I'd likely turn tail, walk away and disappear into the crowd (like I am incredibly good at doing BTW) or change my route if I was going somewhere in her path so that we wouldn't cross paths. So in that sense that oughta tell you that I am also a little intimidated by her (or any female celeb within my age range if I was in their presence). So no it wouldn't change. I'd just feel good from afar about Jennifer's choice as long as I knew ahead of time that the guy she married wasn't a total sleazebag! Other parts of my opinion for at least parts 1 and 2 of this segment was something Looking4Love already said so thanks for that Looking4Love! Well, that's my dime. I am out!

10-23-2005, 10:06 PM	#19 (permalink)
i love love . Join Date: Dec 2000 Location: a black hole in a back pocket universe Posts: 5,263 My Profile	I have no interest in someone's meeting with a psychic. Love portraying Hepburn doesn't mean anything more than Love portraying Hepburn in a tv movie. A Golightly fixation? OK, fine, there's all kinds out there. We can't report certain factual things due to it's stalker nature, and they're not rumors or innuendo. You have every right to defend another poster, you won't find other posters agreeing that Love should possibly just stay single and look for hybrid lovers. You haven't been here long enough to have witnessed certain remarks in the past. Luckily the board no longer allows boyfriend discussions, so it cut short so many mindless remarks from the boyfriend haters.