Men's Responsibility?

[Hermie]

My friends and I were discussing how it seems for many couples... it is the man's irresponsibility that leads to their girlfriends getting pregnant. It was a touchy subject but I think it would be a good to see what you all have to say about it. IMHO I feel like both parties are at fault.

[Samson The Cat]

Ja. Yet it can be different from case to case, so one cannot make a general judgement. And sometimes a pregnancy might even be planned. If it's planned on part of the woman only and she's telling her boyfriend, she's on birth control, I'd say it's more the fault of the woman though. Even more so, when the child is not his.

[Captain Beefheart]

It generally takes two to tango, but it's really circumstancial, depending on age/level of maturity, sexual education of both parties involved. Watching a young woman dedicate herself to having a baby to avoid feeling alone is such an overpoweringly helpless feeling. Most woman who have children at a young age understand but don't realize what pregnancy entails, and what it means for the people involved.

[Jocasta]

IMHO I feel like both parties are at fault.

Obviously it takes two so it should be a joint responsibility but in reality a woman has more at stake if an unwanted pregnancy occurs, so she has to be fully responsible her own body.
In a steady relationship circumstances change and eventually it's often the man who takes the ultimate responsibility.

[Frasier]

Men are irresponsible... even if they not want to. If the blood goes down there, it's better that the girl has no trust in the guy's responsibility. Word.

[Plastic Flute]

^ yup

[edawg99]

I agree with it takes two to tango. Both parties are responsible.

[Plastic Flute]

Just always have a raincoat. I mean why wouldnt anyone in this day an age?

[Jim Halpert]

Honestly, I believe there should be rigorous test/exams and classes that one should be required to take before thinking of having children. Or at least update the education system to include Parenting. You're not to operate a car without practice or a written test. If one wants to know how to operate a computer, you take classes, right?

Originally Posted by CB

It generally takes two to tango, but it's really circumstancial, depending on age/level of maturity, sexual education of both parties involved. Watching a young woman dedicate herself to having a baby to avoid feeling alone is such an overpoweringly helpless feeling.

Helpless, and selfish. Bringing a life should be for reasons that you have something to give to the new life, not for what you can get out of it. If a young woman wants to avoid feeling alone, she should get friends, or adopt a puppy, but get pregnant? No, madam!

Besides the course where the sex educator puts a condom on the banana, BOTH parties should have some idea what to expect, know the responsibilities that will come, etc. Not to say that classes and books will prepare you 100%, but it'll give you something to use so it doesn't become so overbearing. Because it's so easy to just put a condom on and start riding, its irresponsible on both persons to think just a raincoat will is all you need to prevent a pregnancy.

A friend of mine wanted a baby because she was 30 and "her clock was ticking", another bad reason to want to get pregnant. Now her fiance left her and she's stuck with a baby, living paycheck to paycheck. It sucks, but people never really think things through, they let their emotions make the decisions.

P.S. I Love you.

[sea lavender]

Originally Posted by Hermie

My friends and I were discussing how it seems for many couples... it is the man's irresponsibility that leads to their girlfriends getting pregnant. It was a touchy subject but I think it would be a good to see what you all have to say about it. IMHO I feel like both parties are at fault.

Indeed!