Casual sex

[R@H]

Have you ever slept with someone who you were not in love with but just because you wanted to, and if so did you end up getting feelings for the person, or that person for you, or did you both enjoy it and was able to move on?..

Once I started liking the guy too much and was getting jealous and pissed off at him for no good reason, then after i lost those feelings for him, he started getting jealous and posessive. Does it ever work out though, is there not always someone who ends up getting hurt..we decided to go out for a while but that was a total drama..

[aloha]

that´s an interesting topic!
well i can´t say much too it, but I´m interested in answers.
I think it can be in several ways.

I mean what about if this guy is maybe your best friend? how´s that then?

[edawg99]

I'm not into the whole one night hello-good bye thing and I don't like girls like that.

[R@H]

casual sex with a friend doesnt have to be a one night stand

[edawg99]

Originally Posted by R@H

casual sex with a friend doesnt have to be a one night stand

Yeah but I don't think so, it would be to wierd afterwards.

[Captain Beefheart]

Couple of years ago, while going through sort of a "post dumped self depression". It was a total stranger(met her 10 minutes before at a lobby) so there wasn't much of a link or any emotional attachment

As for your story. The best you can make of this situation is to realize you're probably relationship oriented and should probably avoid summer flings or one night stands all together. Yeah, I said summer fling. None of this "we bonded on some seriously deep levels, and grew about 4 years in those 4 days" drama.

There are ways you can tell if somebody is a free spirit before you get involved. Like, did you meet them at a pagan/druid/spiritual gathering HA!.

[Plastic Flute]

I was in a commited relationship. But I will never forget Him he was perfect. Long brown hair. Blue eyes that could bring a girl to her knees. He was tall lanky and played guitar like a star. We loved the same music. Yeah it was more than casual but it couldnt be. To this day it was wrong , but Ill never regret it.

[Jocasta]

^I love him too. Ha! You're so right not to regret it, I regret passing up an "opportunity" and I have to comfort myself by saying I did "the right thing".

[Captain Beefheart]

OH OH OH OHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH!

[Plastic Flute]

I wanted to be able to say I did the right thing also. But he was so . Im glad I did.

[darko.]

I love violence.

reported as offensive = has to be removed? ill be waiting for those posts i reported to be removed.

[Jocasta]

I'd like to report darko's post. There was a time when I would have been able deleted it and darko was always ok about that but apparently that was considered abusing my powers.
So his foul, filth remains for any kid or young girl to read. Nice.

But darko, I get the point your making.

[Captain Beefheart]

Constructed entirely out of prunes and newspaper, darko is both a gash in a jar and the shepherd of the self righteous.

[aloha]

I'd like to report darko's post. There was a time when I would have been able deleted it and darko was always ok about that but apparently that was considered abusing my powers.
So his foul, filth remains for any kid or young girl to read. Nice.

I agree with you Kate!
I´m shocked about what he wrote. I can´t believe someone can write that publicly in a forum.

[R@H]

what happend now?

[Jocasta]

Thanks Missy, I'm against all unprovoked acts of violence.

[Frasier]

...a behaviour like this is only okay for guys

[Jocasta]

Originally Posted by Frasier

...a behaviour like this is only okay for guys

That's cool, just find another guy and get on with it.

[darko.]

I'd like to report Plastic Flute, Jocasta and R@H's posts as they are immoral and imaginary young girls who dont come to this forum might read it and decide its okay to cheat or have casual sex, despite all the evidence to the contrary.

1. more likely to become depressed
2. more likely to contract a venereal disease
3. more likely to have children out of wed lock and raised without fathers
a. children raised without fathers are more likely to become depressed
b. children raised without fathers are more likely to commit crimes
c. children raised without fathers are more likely to abuse drugs
d. children raised without fathers are more likely to have children out of wedlock and raise children without fathers

those aren't even all of the reasons but obviously, after considering the facts, Plastic Flute and R@H's posts are much more offensive and potentially dangerous than mine. No one will read mine and go out and commit the crimes I described. They will however read their posts, then read Jocasta's post condoning the behavior (she is older, married, more experiences, and therefor more influencial) and decide it's al right, leading to the behavior and consequences I described. clearly their posts should be deleted.

Im not against violence against women. in fact im all for it. just like im for violence against men. more woman logic, i see

children deserve a smack or 2 now and again now that i think about it. anyone old enough to deserve it really.

[Jocasta]

and therefor more influencial

I'd say less so because I'm older etc. but as ever I see your point but you could have put it in a less controversial manner.

Yes, I said I regretted not taking up an opportunity but that doesn't mean I think cheating on your long term partner is right, my regret is just a personal reaction, not a moral judgment. If I'd have had an affair then I'd have to live with the guilt and any other possible consequences, which could be catastrophic.