I Need Some Damn Motivation

**MissyO** · 08-25-2007, 10:21 PM

So my life is in a very large hole right now. My house is a mess, I'm unemployed, bored out of my brain, stuck in the 'Burbs and, God help me, I'm starting to think I want a relationship. How in the hell do I motivate myself to get out of this funk that I'm in? I just can't be bothered even trying right now.

Blackmask · 08-25-2007, 10:51 PM

I've found wanting a relationship becomes a bigger thing when life is in a hole. It's like wanting someone to share the gloom with.

I did something a few weeks ago that helped me get out of a hole. I gave myself a week to be miserable and pathetic. Then on the Monday morning after my allocated week of pathetic I got up and got on with things. Walking the dog in the morning, contacting prospective employers, catching up with friends, just generally keeping myself busy. It's a matter of forcing yourself to do it, keeping a promise to yourself.

**MissyO** · 08-25-2007, 10:53 PM

^ Very bloody good idea.

I think I done gotta just haul my ass from in front of the computer and start by cleaning the house. Energy feeds of action, or some such thing.

Blackmask · 08-25-2007, 10:58 PM

Cleaning is one of the things I use. Also use it as a measure of how far off track I go. When the dishes get too high in the sink it's kind of like a wake up call. I get them done, even though I can't really be bothered.

I have a structured house cleaning plan, partly because I hate housework and without a plan it won't get done, but it also forces me to do stuff.

Blackmask · 08-26-2007, 06:21 AM

Did you get the cleaning done? Now that you are good at it do you want come over and do mine and save me the trouble?

**MissyO** · 08-26-2007, 06:26 AM

I got bits of it done. I still have a shlt load of junk to chuck, but I got the laundry done after two damn weeks of rain has backed it up waaay over the galvanized bin(my laundry basket), and the kitchen is nearly clean. I'm still holding out hope that I'll get up the energy to chuck the junk out later tonight once my head clears up.

And babe, if only I lived closer to you, I'd offer to do your housework for you. Honestly, I swear it absolutely, I would.

Blackmask · 08-26-2007, 06:44 AM

I love chucking stuff out. It's much easier to clean when there's no stuff.

**MissyO** · 08-26-2007, 07:08 AM

See, I'm the opposite. The scrubbing is all exciting, but the chucking just bores me.

Blackmask · 08-26-2007, 07:22 AM

We should swap houses for a weekend.

**MissyO** · 08-26-2007, 07:27 AM

Hahaha......... Great idea..........

08-26-2007, 08:08 AM

wait, you're unemployed again? what happened, luv?

**MissyO** · 08-26-2007, 08:10 AM

It was only a Temp job, first up...... But mostly I just hated it there and was surly the whole time I worked there. Too bltchy an atmosphere for me to be happy in, so everyday I had to fight myself not to quit like 5 times over. Eventually they let me go for some reason.........

Blackmask · 08-26-2007, 08:14 AM

Maybe because you were surly all the time? Just a thought.

**MissyO** · 08-26-2007, 08:15 AM

Oh NOS...... I hadn't thought of that.......

08-26-2007, 08:23 AM

Come to the States, I'll take care of ya.

By that I mean emotionally.

**MissyO** · 08-26-2007, 08:30 AM

In your dreams, Phoenix. Its very sweet of you to offer, though.

Na, I just need to keep on looking until I find a job I like, or get rid of my fierce temper.......... Whichever comes first.

Blackmask · 08-26-2007, 08:49 AM

Tempers are bad for working. It took me a long time to get mine under control.

**MissyO** · 08-26-2007, 08:56 AM

Any tips for those of us still with too much fire in our veins?

08-26-2007, 09:02 AM

And bad for any type of social life. I can only speak for myself when I say that I don't like drama in a relationship. Arguments are fine and expected, but tempers are a big turn-off. Lived way too many times to go at it again and again. Not making that same mistake again.. and again.. and again..

What was that movie called? That one with this girl who was turned into a hit-woman... she had a nasty temper.

Fire in your veins? Repeat after me: "I never minded the little things"

**Ophelia** · 08-26-2007, 09:10 AM

I hate my job too. It's a good job, the people are fine (but my co-worker in the cubicle across the hall is really starting to irritate me..stop talking to me BEEYATCH, can't you see I'm on FANHOST??!!!) Anyways, but I'm BORED!!! Bored! MInd numbingly bored.

I need to be doing something more creative.

08-25-2007, 10:21 PM	#1 (permalink)
MissyO Perennially Disgruntled Join Date: Jun 2006 Location: Sydney Posts: 4,113 My Profile	I Need Some Damn Motivation So my life is in a very large hole right now. My house is a mess, I'm unemployed, bored out of my brain, stuck in the 'Burbs and, God help me, I'm starting to think I want a relationship. How in the hell do I motivate myself to get out of this funk that I'm in? I just can't be bothered even trying right now.

08-26-2007, 08:23 AM	#15 (permalink)
Avis Phlox Posts: n/a	Come to the States, I'll take care of ya. By that I mean emotionally. Last edited by Avis Phlox : 08-26-2007 at 08:24 AM.

08-26-2007, 09:02 AM	#19 (permalink)
Avis Phlox Posts: n/a	And bad for any type of social life. I can only speak for myself when I say that I don't like drama in a relationship. Arguments are fine and expected, but tempers are a big turn-off. Lived way too many times to go at it again and again. Not making that same mistake again.. and again.. and again.. What was that movie called? That one with this girl who was turned into a hit-woman... she had a nasty temper. Fire in your veins? Repeat after me: "I never minded the little things" Last edited by Avis Phlox : 08-26-2007 at 09:04 AM.

08-25-2007, 10:51 PM	#2 (permalink)
Blackmask Protector of Inanity Join Date: May 2002 Location: Australia Posts: 6,158 My Profile	I've found wanting a relationship becomes a bigger thing when life is in a hole. It's like wanting someone to share the gloom with. I did something a few weeks ago that helped me get out of a hole. I gave myself a week to be miserable and pathetic. Then on the Monday morning after my allocated week of pathetic I got up and got on with things. Walking the dog in the morning, contacting prospective employers, catching up with friends, just generally keeping myself busy. It's a matter of forcing yourself to do it, keeping a promise to yourself.

08-25-2007, 10:53 PM	#3 (permalink)
MissyO Perennially Disgruntled Join Date: Jun 2006 Location: Sydney Posts: 4,113 My Profile	^ Very bloody good idea. I think I done gotta just haul my ass from in front of the computer and start by cleaning the house. Energy feeds of action, or some such thing.

08-25-2007, 10:58 PM	#4 (permalink)
Blackmask Protector of Inanity Join Date: May 2002 Location: Australia Posts: 6,158 My Profile	Cleaning is one of the things I use. Also use it as a measure of how far off track I go. When the dishes get too high in the sink it's kind of like a wake up call. I get them done, even though I can't really be bothered. I have a structured house cleaning plan, partly because I hate housework and without a plan it won't get done, but it also forces me to do stuff.

08-26-2007, 06:21 AM	#5 (permalink)
Blackmask Protector of Inanity Join Date: May 2002 Location: Australia Posts: 6,158 My Profile	Did you get the cleaning done? Now that you are good at it do you want come over and do mine and save me the trouble?

08-26-2007, 06:26 AM	#6 (permalink)
MissyO Perennially Disgruntled Join Date: Jun 2006 Location: Sydney Posts: 4,113 My Profile	I got bits of it done. I still have a shlt load of junk to chuck, but I got the laundry done after two damn weeks of rain has backed it up waaay over the galvanized bin(my laundry basket), and the kitchen is nearly clean. I'm still holding out hope that I'll get up the energy to chuck the junk out later tonight once my head clears up. And babe, if only I lived closer to you, I'd offer to do your housework for you. Honestly, I swear it absolutely, I would.

08-26-2007, 06:44 AM	#7 (permalink)
Blackmask Protector of Inanity Join Date: May 2002 Location: Australia Posts: 6,158 My Profile	I love chucking stuff out. It's much easier to clean when there's no stuff.

08-26-2007, 07:08 AM	#8 (permalink)
MissyO Perennially Disgruntled Join Date: Jun 2006 Location: Sydney Posts: 4,113 My Profile	See, I'm the opposite. The scrubbing is all exciting, but the chucking just bores me.

08-26-2007, 07:22 AM	#9 (permalink)
Blackmask Protector of Inanity Join Date: May 2002 Location: Australia Posts: 6,158 My Profile	We should swap houses for a weekend.

08-26-2007, 07:27 AM	#10 (permalink)
MissyO Perennially Disgruntled Join Date: Jun 2006 Location: Sydney Posts: 4,113 My Profile	Hahaha......... Great idea..........

08-26-2007, 08:08 AM	#11 (permalink)
Avis Phlox Posts: n/a	wait, you're unemployed again? what happened, luv?

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08-26-2007, 08:10 AM	#12 (permalink)
MissyO Perennially Disgruntled Join Date: Jun 2006 Location: Sydney Posts: 4,113 My Profile	It was only a Temp job, first up...... But mostly I just hated it there and was surly the whole time I worked there. Too bltchy an atmosphere for me to be happy in, so everyday I had to fight myself not to quit like 5 times over. Eventually they let me go for some reason.........

08-26-2007, 08:14 AM	#13 (permalink)
Blackmask Protector of Inanity Join Date: May 2002 Location: Australia Posts: 6,158 My Profile	Maybe because you were surly all the time? Just a thought.

08-26-2007, 08:15 AM	#14 (permalink)
MissyO Perennially Disgruntled Join Date: Jun 2006 Location: Sydney Posts: 4,113 My Profile	Oh NOS...... I hadn't thought of that.......

08-26-2007, 08:30 AM	#16 (permalink)
MissyO Perennially Disgruntled Join Date: Jun 2006 Location: Sydney Posts: 4,113 My Profile	In your dreams, Phoenix. Its very sweet of you to offer, though. Na, I just need to keep on looking until I find a job I like, or get rid of my fierce temper.......... Whichever comes first.

08-26-2007, 08:49 AM	#17 (permalink)
Blackmask Protector of Inanity Join Date: May 2002 Location: Australia Posts: 6,158 My Profile	Tempers are bad for working. It took me a long time to get mine under control.

08-26-2007, 08:56 AM	#18 (permalink)
MissyO Perennially Disgruntled Join Date: Jun 2006 Location: Sydney Posts: 4,113 My Profile	Any tips for those of us still with too much fire in our veins?

08-26-2007, 09:10 AM	#20 (permalink)
Ophelia JOHO Join Date: Mar 2005 Location: Joshtopia Posts: 7,020 My Profile	I hate my job too. It's a good job, the people are fine (but my co-worker in the cubicle across the hall is really starting to irritate me..stop talking to me BEEYATCH, can't you see I'm on FANHOST??!!!) Anyways, but I'm BORED!!! Bored! MInd numbingly bored. I need to be doing something more creative.