The Virginity Thread - Page 6

aloha · 08-27-2007, 09:53 AM

sadly no, never

never had any experience with that, at least not a kiss

**Ophelia** · 08-27-2007, 10:06 AM

no kisses? aw honey.

Lookit, get off fanhost and go out and start socializing more.

**MissyO** · 08-27-2007, 10:13 AM

Wow, you've never even been kissed??????

How in the hell????

aloha · 08-27-2007, 10:16 AM

well, that´s what I would also like to know

I said I´m a dumpass at this point

**Ophelia** · 08-27-2007, 10:49 AM

No, No, No! CONFIDENCE remember. What do you think the problem is?

and seriously...I mean it about Fanhost. You can't make out with your monitor (well, you can but its a little cold and sometimes dusty), go socialize with people other than us!

**MissyO** · 08-27-2007, 10:56 AM

Ophelia speaks the truth. Confidence most likely is your problem judging from the number of times you've called yourself a "dumbass", Aloha. Don't be so damn mean to yourself. If you're not ready for a relationship, that's ok. But don't put yourself down just because you don't want one yet. Maybe you haven't met the right person yet, or been in the right situation. That's totally different from being a dumbass.

**Ophelia** · 08-27-2007, 11:00 AM

^True Dat!

aloha · 08-27-2007, 11:02 AM

but I´m getting older and older. and it will be even harder to get into a relastionship then

I mean, who wants a girl at my age who never had any experiences with the other sex, in no way, well, except flirting maybe

and the confidence thing is harder than you maybe think. Cause ther´s a thing I would like to change, which maybe would helop me a little bit to get more confident, but how should I pay for that?

**MissyO** · 08-27-2007, 11:06 AM

^ Have you met Samson yet??????

And confidence can't be fixed by external measures or surgery, unless there's a full blown abnormality. Confidence is just about liking yourself, and being comfortable with who you are and what unique things you can offer the world.

**Ophelia** · 08-27-2007, 11:08 AM

Change is from the inside out girlie.

aloha · 08-27-2007, 11:13 AM

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Have you met Samson yet??????

haven´t met him, but I talk to him. Why?

Quote:

And confidence can't be fixed by external measures or surgery, unless there's a full blown abnormality. Confidence is just about liking yourself, and being comfortable with who you are and what unique things you can offer the world.

but how can I like myself? I hate this special part of my body and that makes me not loving myself or my body

**MissyO** · 08-27-2007, 11:16 AM

Because Samson holds similar beliefs about love as yourself. I think you two could be friends.

And that's the point. You've got to stop hating that part of yourself, and accept it, and yourself, as you are. I doubt very much that its as hideous as you believe it is, anyhow.

aloha · 08-27-2007, 11:24 AM

but it is, I hate to be stared at. I don´t know if it´s cause of that, but it feels like it is cause of that, and that sucks and makes me even more insecure and hits my confident
he holds the same beliefs? well, I think his problem is another one, totally different as I know about it

baybee · 08-27-2007, 11:25 AM

Do you have friends that are girls? You need to get together with them more often do girlie things like talk about your feelings, listen to their experiences with men, and after you're feeling better about yourself (which at this point sounds like it's going to take a little time), make yourself up all sexy and go to the club, get your groove on girl! Get out there and have some fun, meet men, get comfortable with them.

**Ophelia** · 08-27-2007, 11:29 AM

Thanks for being honest about all this Aloha. If you need me or Missyo to do the whack over the head technique at any point, let us know.

aloha · 08-27-2007, 11:30 AM

well, i don´t have real friends, they all moved away after school and now I don´t know where tehy are.
there are only some people I meet once a month of my last class of my education. All girls, and they talked about exactly that topic last time, well sex, but I always sit there and yes, I can´t say anything and I feel bad then, I´m feeling like an outsider then

aloha · 08-27-2007, 11:31 AM

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Thanks for being honest about all this Aloha. If you need me or Missyo to do the whack over the head technique at any point, let us know.

well, i guess the only head who need that, is my own, so hit it like hell so that everything comes out

**Ophelia** · 08-27-2007, 11:35 AM

Oh man, I think we need Dr. Phil.

baybee · 08-27-2007, 11:41 AM

Aloha, Do you work? What do you do when you're not able to get onto fanhost?

aloha · 08-27-2007, 11:41 AM

Dr. Phil? Who is that?

oh no, am I that bad?

so stupid and dumb?

08-27-2007, 11:06 AM	#109 (permalink)
MissyO Perennially Disgruntled Join Date: Jun 2006 Location: Sydney Posts: 4,213 My Profile	^ Have you met Samson yet?????? And confidence can't be fixed by external measures or surgery, unless there's a full blown abnormality. Confidence is just about liking yourself, and being comfortable with who you are and what unique things you can offer the world. Last edited by MissyO; 08-27-2007 at 11:10 AM.. Reason: I'm tired and need to look before I edit

08-27-2007, 09:53 AM	#101 (permalink)
aloha Rain Man Join Date: Jan 2006 Posts: 18,539 My Profile	sadly no, never never had any experience with that, at least not a kiss

08-27-2007, 10:06 AM	#102 (permalink)
Ophelia JOHO Join Date: Mar 2005 Location: Joshtopia Posts: 7,291 My Profile	no kisses? aw honey. Lookit, get off fanhost and go out and start socializing more.

08-27-2007, 10:13 AM	#103 (permalink)
MissyO Perennially Disgruntled Join Date: Jun 2006 Location: Sydney Posts: 4,213 My Profile	Wow, you've never even been kissed?????? How in the hell????

08-27-2007, 10:16 AM	#104 (permalink)
aloha Rain Man Join Date: Jan 2006 Posts: 18,539 My Profile	well, that´s what I would also like to know I said I´m a dumpass at this point

08-27-2007, 10:49 AM	#105 (permalink)
Ophelia JOHO Join Date: Mar 2005 Location: Joshtopia Posts: 7,291 My Profile	No, No, No! CONFIDENCE remember. What do you think the problem is? and seriously...I mean it about Fanhost. You can't make out with your monitor (well, you can but its a little cold and sometimes dusty), go socialize with people other than us!

08-27-2007, 10:56 AM	#106 (permalink)
MissyO Perennially Disgruntled Join Date: Jun 2006 Location: Sydney Posts: 4,213 My Profile	Ophelia speaks the truth. Confidence most likely is your problem judging from the number of times you've called yourself a "dumbass", Aloha. Don't be so damn mean to yourself. If you're not ready for a relationship, that's ok. But don't put yourself down just because you don't want one yet. Maybe you haven't met the right person yet, or been in the right situation. That's totally different from being a dumbass.

08-27-2007, 11:00 AM	#107 (permalink)
Ophelia JOHO Join Date: Mar 2005 Location: Joshtopia Posts: 7,291 My Profile	^True Dat!

08-27-2007, 11:02 AM	#108 (permalink)
aloha Rain Man Join Date: Jan 2006 Posts: 18,539 My Profile	but I´m getting older and older. and it will be even harder to get into a relastionship then I mean, who wants a girl at my age who never had any experiences with the other sex, in no way, well, except flirting maybe and the confidence thing is harder than you maybe think. Cause ther´s a thing I would like to change, which maybe would helop me a little bit to get more confident, but how should I pay for that?

08-27-2007, 11:08 AM	#110 (permalink)
Ophelia JOHO Join Date: Mar 2005 Location: Joshtopia Posts: 7,291 My Profile	Change is from the inside out girlie.

08-27-2007, 11:16 AM	#112 (permalink)
MissyO Perennially Disgruntled Join Date: Jun 2006 Location: Sydney Posts: 4,213 My Profile	Because Samson holds similar beliefs about love as yourself. I think you two could be friends. And that's the point. You've got to stop hating that part of yourself, and accept it, and yourself, as you are. I doubt very much that its as hideous as you believe it is, anyhow.

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08-27-2007, 11:24 AM	#113 (permalink)
aloha Rain Man Join Date: Jan 2006 Posts: 18,539 My Profile	but it is, I hate to be stared at. I don´t know if it´s cause of that, but it feels like it is cause of that, and that sucks and makes me even more insecure and hits my confident he holds the same beliefs? well, I think his problem is another one, totally different as I know about it

08-27-2007, 11:25 AM	#114 (permalink)
baybee Sleven Join Date: May 2007 Posts: 684 My Profile	Do you have friends that are girls? You need to get together with them more often do girlie things like talk about your feelings, listen to their experiences with men, and after you're feeling better about yourself (which at this point sounds like it's going to take a little time), make yourself up all sexy and go to the club, get your groove on girl! Get out there and have some fun, meet men, get comfortable with them.

08-27-2007, 11:29 AM	#115 (permalink)
Ophelia JOHO Join Date: Mar 2005 Location: Joshtopia Posts: 7,291 My Profile	Thanks for being honest about all this Aloha. If you need me or Missyo to do the whack over the head technique at any point, let us know.

08-27-2007, 11:30 AM	#116 (permalink)
aloha Rain Man Join Date: Jan 2006 Posts: 18,539 My Profile	well, i don´t have real friends, they all moved away after school and now I don´t know where tehy are. there are only some people I meet once a month of my last class of my education. All girls, and they talked about exactly that topic last time, well sex, but I always sit there and yes, I can´t say anything and I feel bad then, I´m feeling like an outsider then

08-27-2007, 11:35 AM	#118 (permalink)
Ophelia JOHO Join Date: Mar 2005 Location: Joshtopia Posts: 7,291 My Profile	Oh man, I think we need Dr. Phil.

08-27-2007, 11:41 AM	#119 (permalink)
baybee Sleven Join Date: May 2007 Posts: 684 My Profile	Aloha, Do you work? What do you do when you're not able to get onto fanhost?

08-27-2007, 11:41 AM	#120 (permalink)
aloha Rain Man Join Date: Jan 2006 Posts: 18,539 My Profile	Dr. Phil? Who is that? oh no, am I that bad? so stupid and dumb?