Are you shallow?

Wolf · 09-06-2006, 05:15 PM

Do you only tend to date pretty people, and brush off the ugly ones?

SilverSpoon · 09-06-2006, 08:38 PM

Anyone who says they would date people based on their personalities and not their looks is a ****ing liar.

**Gumby** · 09-07-2006, 01:18 AM

Everybody's shallow, to an extent. You MUST find someone physically attracted before you date them, I don't care what anybody says. They can have the greatest personality ever, but if you don't feel attracted to them, the most you'll be is friends.

To me, shallow is only caring about looks or money regardless of someone's personality. In that respect, no, I'm not shallow.

JenniferNoble · 09-07-2006, 01:50 PM

i always thought i was shallow but i found out im not

im dating someone thats absolutely not my type (but hell those abs...)

Samson The Cat · 09-07-2006, 03:14 PM

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Everybody's shallow, to an extent. You MUST find someone physically attracted before you date them, I don't care what anybody says.

That is true. Of course it's subjective, whom one finds physically attractive. Also distinctive features aren't necessarily ugly. Not everyone is looking for that beautiful person, the mix of all people with just "the right amount" of everything. Still personality matters too. That's not an empty phrase. A personality can add or subtract to the attractiveness of a person.

**open32** · 09-07-2006, 04:24 PM

It seems theres a consencus here. Ya, I have to be physicaly atracted to the person. Personality does matter, a bad personality is a big turnoff, example being Paris Hilton. Also we all find different people atractive.

Captain Beefheart · 09-07-2006, 05:44 PM

I think that women are more selevtive than men, for the reason that while popular culture loves the steorotypical geek who can't ever get a date, he does not have a female counterpart.

People I've been involved with romantically have all been because we connect in some way, though obviously I can say that attractiveness plays a part, but not that much of a part to be honest. I see people who are in relationships that are based on an aquisitive 'I want the best specimen to breed with' kind of trip, but they seem a little shallow.

Now if you were talking about a one night stand, or who I want to sleep with right here, right now, then yeah, I'd probably go with what my genes want me to do, because that'd give me maximum physical pleasure. But even then, in practice I'd have a lot more fun with someone who I was close to (it's very possible to become extremely intimate in a short space of time, with the right person). My body/genetic needs are something I'm aware of, but they don't rule me, and I'm aware of them to the extent that I can second guess them.

edawg99 · 09-07-2006, 06:29 PM

I agree. Everyone is a bit shallow. I'm not to picky but I won't go out with some girls because of the way they look.

**open32** · 09-07-2006, 07:38 PM

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though obviously I can say that attractiveness plays a part, but not that much of a part to be honest.

Ok, you may not be completely physicly attracted to a girl becuase personality does play a part, but could you be in a relationship with someone who you werent attracted to at all, even if they had a great personality and where really fun.

edawg99 · 09-07-2006, 09:09 PM

I could never date an ugly girl. Even if we had a lot in common.

SilverSpoon · 09-07-2006, 09:11 PM

At least you're honest.

edawg99 · 09-07-2006, 09:24 PM

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Originally Posted by SilverSpoon

At least you're honest.

I say what a lot of other people think.

solo1 · 09-08-2006, 03:21 AM

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Anyone who says they would date people based on their personalities and not their looks is a ****ing liar.

I've dated people based on their personalities.

SilverSpoon · 09-08-2006, 08:26 AM

Liar.

R@H · 09-08-2006, 08:34 AM

I'm shallow first fell 4 looks n then personality...

Wolf · 09-08-2006, 11:58 AM

You'll settle for a man who beats you it's the new trend for weak women nowadays.

Captain Beefheart · 09-08-2006, 03:36 PM

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Originally Posted by open32

Ok, you may not be completely physicly attracted to a girl becuase personality does play a part, but could you be in a relationship with someone who you werent attracted to at all, even if they had a great personality and where really fun.

I really don't think it matters. There are beautiful women of all kinds of ethnic/racial mixes. Basically, I'd rather have a really nice, caring, loving, witty, mature, and thoughful girl who is thought of as average looking than some rude, hateful, stuck up, gorgeous looking like a model type.

People are individuals, and they want individual things. Yes, some will make a certain choice more than others, and yes, it might be more popular with one gender than another.

But that's no excuse to start preaching what men or women's true ideal is, and that everyone must follow a certain system. People should figure out for themselves what they really want and then find someone who's willing to give it to them. Maybe marriages fail as much as they do because people make choices based on what they "should" be choosing rather than what really suits them.

**Jocasta** · 09-10-2006, 03:43 AM

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Anyone who says they would date people based on their personalities and not their looks is a ****ing liar.

Do you mean people date solely because of looks and that personality has no bearing? I think for most people it's a combination. But you have to be attracted to the person, obviously.

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I think that women are more selevtive than men, for the reason that while popular culture loves the steorotypical geek who can't ever get a date, he does not have a female counterpart.

Wrong, Shallow Hal. How about the fat girl?

SilverSpoon · 09-10-2006, 09:14 PM

Yeah, okay.

Captain Beefheart · 09-11-2006, 04:44 PM

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Wrong, Shallow Hal. How about the fat girl?

Ah, hello there Kate. AIN'T I CUTER THAN TOBY KEITH?

I cast Lvl. 3 Eroticism. You turn into a real beautiful woman. NOW!

09-06-2006, 05:15 PM	#1 (permalink)
Wolf The Elder Join Date: Sep 2004 Posts: 4,138 My Profile	Are you shallow? Do you only tend to date pretty people, and brush off the ugly ones? Last edited by Wolf : 09-06-2006 at 05:16 PM.

09-07-2006, 05:44 PM	#7 (permalink)
Captain Beefheart Mu nótahu Join Date: Jul 2003 Location: In a West End town, a dead end world Posts: 3,672 My Profile	I think that women are more selevtive than men, for the reason that while popular culture loves the steorotypical geek who can't ever get a date, he does not have a female counterpart. People I've been involved with romantically have all been because we connect in some way, though obviously I can say that attractiveness plays a part, but not that much of a part to be honest. I see people who are in relationships that are based on an aquisitive 'I want the best specimen to breed with' kind of trip, but they seem a little shallow. Now if you were talking about a one night stand, or who I want to sleep with right here, right now, then yeah, I'd probably go with what my genes want me to do, because that'd give me maximum physical pleasure. But even then, in practice I'd have a lot more fun with someone who I was close to (it's very possible to become extremely intimate in a short space of time, with the right person). My body/genetic needs are something I'm aware of, but they don't rule me, and I'm aware of them to the extent that I can second guess them. Last edited by Captain Beefheart : 09-07-2006 at 05:45 PM.

09-06-2006, 08:38 PM	#2 (permalink)
SilverSpoon Kamen Rider Kiva Join Date: Apr 2002 Location: www.canofnothing.com Posts: 7,526	Anyone who says they would date people based on their personalities and not their looks is a ****ing liar.

09-07-2006, 01:18 AM	#3 (permalink)
Gumby Ya Rly! Join Date: Apr 2006 Posts: 943 My Profile	Everybody's shallow, to an extent. You MUST find someone physically attracted before you date them, I don't care what anybody says. They can have the greatest personality ever, but if you don't feel attracted to them, the most you'll be is friends. To me, shallow is only caring about looks or money regardless of someone's personality. In that respect, no, I'm not shallow.

09-07-2006, 01:50 PM	#4 (permalink)
JenniferNoble Lovely Join Date: Jun 2004 Location: the Netherlands Posts: 4,623 My Profile	i always thought i was shallow but i found out im not im dating someone thats absolutely not my type (but hell those abs...)

09-07-2006, 04:24 PM	#6 (permalink)
open32 Administrator Join Date: Dec 2004 Location: South Florida Posts: 7,570 My Profile	It seems theres a consencus here. Ya, I have to be physicaly atracted to the person. Personality does matter, a bad personality is a big turnoff, example being Paris Hilton. Also we all find different people atractive.

09-07-2006, 06:29 PM	#8 (permalink)
edawg99 Senior Member Join Date: Aug 2005 Location: Canada Posts: 8,395 My Profile	I agree. Everyone is a bit shallow. I'm not to picky but I won't go out with some girls because of the way they look.

09-07-2006, 09:09 PM	#10 (permalink)
edawg99 Senior Member Join Date: Aug 2005 Location: Canada Posts: 8,395 My Profile	I could never date an ugly girl. Even if we had a lot in common.

09-07-2006, 09:11 PM	#11 (permalink)
SilverSpoon Kamen Rider Kiva Join Date: Apr 2002 Location: www.canofnothing.com Posts: 7,526	At least you're honest.

09-08-2006, 08:26 AM	#14 (permalink)
SilverSpoon Kamen Rider Kiva Join Date: Apr 2002 Location: www.canofnothing.com Posts: 7,526	Liar.

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R@H Lovin' it Join Date: Jul 2003 Location: The Netherlands Posts: 2,868 My Profile	I'm shallow first fell 4 looks n then personality...

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Wolf The Elder Join Date: Sep 2004 Posts: 4,138 My Profile	You'll settle for a man who beats you it's the new trend for weak women nowadays.

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09-10-2006, 09:14 PM	#19 (permalink)
SilverSpoon Kamen Rider Kiva Join Date: Apr 2002 Location: www.canofnothing.com Posts: 7,526	Yeah, okay.