Hate them traps..

Captain Beefheart · 07-24-2006, 07:00 PM

"You think that girl is hot huh?" "You like her huh?"

It's a boobytrap, full of pitfalls, trip wires, mercury switches, and bamboo spikes laden with poison.

The safest bet is to take the high road and refuse to ever answer that question. If you're going to... well, good luck. Here's some ideas.

First, tell her that it's not on or off. You can confront her by asking if that's how she views men, but most women are trained for this question and will answer something like "it's different with women, it's not just about looks." Counter that, if it happens, with the fact that she only asked about looks and also be offended for yourself as she generalizes you in with the stereotype that men are all shallow.

Next, and this is important, you need to learn how to look at women that you may be quizzed on later. You should try to remember them well enough to answer what you think makes them attractive, what you think makes them unattractive, and what you think makes your girl more attractive than her. Obviously missing is what makes her more attractive than your girl, feel free to analyze this, but never ever ever say that any feature is more attractive than your girl's. The answers should be "she has nice...", "I don't like the way her ... looks", and, of course, "your ... is so much hotter than hers". This way you're giving an opinion but never using strong words in favor of her. You can use slightly stronger words against her but be careful because you girl may get offended for woman kind. Then you try to put icing on that cake by comparing your girl favorably.

If you choose to give any of those juicy details, because they may be expected or your answer is greeted by disbelief, you should tread lightly. Think it over. This is good, so long as you're not grinning madly or something, because it's showing that you have to actively try to bring her image to mind. If it's readily available then she may think you were really analyzing that chick before she asked, bad news. Give a couple of short and to the point answers. Nothing in depth. The old "it's hard to explain" is a good fallback if she asks for more.

Try to throw in an "ugly" girl too. Find someone that your girl would never accuse you of looking at and point out her pitfalls and benefits. This may seem dumb, but it shows that you're just being a man and men look at women. This is how the species continues on. It's always good when you can convincingly show how a girl that is not being presented as "hot" has advantages over one who is.

Details are bad, though. If you can get away with a one word answer, then do it. If the binary yes/no doesn't work then through out a "not really", or "she's okay."

If she compliments some feature of a girl DO NOT give a compliment on the same level as hers. If it really is a good feature then give a weaker worded compliment. If you don't like that then tell her.

I'm missing a lot here, but I have to work eventually. Ideally women wouldn't be this way about these things. If any of you guys have women that aren't this way then hold on to them. Jealousy is an annoying beast and it can ruin a relationship easily.

The other option is to just not look. If you do that then you're a better man than I and you probably didn't sit for 3 hours to watch a Miss Universe pageant.

Thank you and good night.

-Beefheart.

darko. · 07-24-2006, 07:10 PM

smack her in the mouth.

SilverSpoon · 07-24-2006, 07:21 PM

Your world is one big self help book.

edawg99 · 07-24-2006, 09:12 PM

Good words of wisdom. I have much to learn.

**MissyO** · 07-25-2006, 02:05 AM

^ From darko or Beefy?!

solo1 · 07-25-2006, 03:11 AM

If women can't handle the idea of other women being pretty, this just speaks of an almost pathological insecurity on their part. You can pander to it by reassuring her blah blah, or you can try to show it up for what it is: "I'm with you, aren't I?"

**Jocasta** · 07-25-2006, 03:19 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by solo1

If women can't handle the idea of other women being pretty, this just speaks of an almost pathological insecurity on their part. You can pander to it by reassuring her blah blah, or you can try to show it up for what it is: "I'm with you, aren't I?"

Word. I really don't understand why you, Beefy, make life so tough for yourself. Listen to solo.

SilverSpoon · 07-25-2006, 11:15 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by solo1

If women can't handle the idea of other women being pretty, this just speaks of an almost pathological insecurity on their part. You can pander to it by reassuring her blah blah, or you can try to show it up for what it is: "I'm with you, aren't I?"

Saying "I'm with you, aren't I?" isn't that reassuring. I'm sure there are always other more beautiful women you just haven't met yet. With relationships it's always pretty much "take what you can get." Not many people will find someone nice and then put them on hold while they take a gander at the other available ladies before making a decision.

**Jocasta** · 07-25-2006, 01:07 PM

Quote:

Saying "I'm with you, aren't I?" isn't that reassuring.

What does he need to reassure her about? Why is her insecurity something he has to 'cure'?
Men who pander to women like that, get what they deserve.

**MissyO** · 07-25-2006, 10:45 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Jocasta

What does he need to reassure her about? Why is her insecurity something he has to 'cure'?
Men who pander to women like that, get what they deserve.

Yep. Loads more hot action than men who don't!

**Jocasta** · 07-26-2006, 03:30 AM

Ah yes, hot action; that's all men want. So when she's not giving out but moaning and whining instead, then he can shut the fluff up... that was his choice.

solo1 · 07-29-2006, 06:23 PM

Quote:

Saying "I'm with you, aren't I?" isn't that reassuring.

It's not supposed to be reassuring. It's supposed to highlight the stupidity of the question.

darko. · 07-29-2006, 06:34 PM

you shouldnt be lusting after other peolpe anyway. but thats too difficult for idiots who freak out when you notice something aesthetically pleasing. women complain about everything though, so its difficult to take their complaints seriously.

its just such a stupid situation. id get a headache and then feel tired and then leave. its so childish.

07-24-2006, 07:00 PM	#1 (permalink)
Captain Beefheart Mu nótahu Join Date: Jul 2003 Location: In a West End town, a dead end world Posts: 3,677 My Profile	Hate them traps.. "You think that girl is hot huh?" "You like her huh?" It's a boobytrap, full of pitfalls, trip wires, mercury switches, and bamboo spikes laden with poison. The safest bet is to take the high road and refuse to ever answer that question. If you're going to... well, good luck. Here's some ideas. First, tell her that it's not on or off. You can confront her by asking if that's how she views men, but most women are trained for this question and will answer something like "it's different with women, it's not just about looks." Counter that, if it happens, with the fact that she only asked about looks and also be offended for yourself as she generalizes you in with the stereotype that men are all shallow. Next, and this is important, you need to learn how to look at women that you may be quizzed on later. You should try to remember them well enough to answer what you think makes them attractive, what you think makes them unattractive, and what you think makes your girl more attractive than her. Obviously missing is what makes her more attractive than your girl, feel free to analyze this, but never ever ever say that any feature is more attractive than your girl's. The answers should be "she has nice...", "I don't like the way her ... looks", and, of course, "your ... is so much hotter than hers". This way you're giving an opinion but never using strong words in favor of her. You can use slightly stronger words against her but be careful because you girl may get offended for woman kind. Then you try to put icing on that cake by comparing your girl favorably. If you choose to give any of those juicy details, because they may be expected or your answer is greeted by disbelief, you should tread lightly. Think it over. This is good, so long as you're not grinning madly or something, because it's showing that you have to actively try to bring her image to mind. If it's readily available then she may think you were really analyzing that chick before she asked, bad news. Give a couple of short and to the point answers. Nothing in depth. The old "it's hard to explain" is a good fallback if she asks for more. Try to throw in an "ugly" girl too. Find someone that your girl would never accuse you of looking at and point out her pitfalls and benefits. This may seem dumb, but it shows that you're just being a man and men look at women. This is how the species continues on. It's always good when you can convincingly show how a girl that is not being presented as "hot" has advantages over one who is. Details are bad, though. If you can get away with a one word answer, then do it. If the binary yes/no doesn't work then through out a "not really", or "she's okay." If she compliments some feature of a girl DO NOT give a compliment on the same level as hers. If it really is a good feature then give a weaker worded compliment. If you don't like that then tell her. I'm missing a lot here, but I have to work eventually. Ideally women wouldn't be this way about these things. If any of you guys have women that aren't this way then hold on to them. Jealousy is an annoying beast and it can ruin a relationship easily. The other option is to just not look. If you do that then you're a better man than I and you probably didn't sit for 3 hours to watch a Miss Universe pageant. Thank you and good night. -Beefheart.

07-24-2006, 07:10 PM	#2 (permalink)
darko. Senior Member Join Date: Oct 2002 Location: shlums 'o shaolin Posts: 2,087	smack her in the mouth.

07-24-2006, 07:21 PM	#3 (permalink)
SilverSpoon Kamen Rider Kiva Join Date: Apr 2002 Location: www.canofnothing.com Posts: 7,526	Your world is one big self help book.

07-24-2006, 09:12 PM	#4 (permalink)
edawg99 Senior Member Join Date: Aug 2005 Location: Canada Posts: 8,395 My Profile	Good words of wisdom. I have much to learn.

07-25-2006, 02:05 AM	#5 (permalink)
MissyO Perennially Disgruntled Join Date: Jun 2006 Location: Sydney Posts: 4,111 My Profile	^ From darko or Beefy?!

07-25-2006, 03:11 AM	#6 (permalink)
solo1 Heartless Bastard Join Date: Mar 2001 Location: Ireland Posts: 3,351 My Profile	If women can't handle the idea of other women being pretty, this just speaks of an almost pathological insecurity on their part. You can pander to it by reassuring her blah blah, or you can try to show it up for what it is: "I'm with you, aren't I?"

07-26-2006, 03:30 AM	#11 (permalink)
Jocasta Joshtopian Join Date: Sep 2002 Location: Shaftesbury Avenue Posts: 17,807 My Profile	Ah yes, hot action; that's all men want. So when she's not giving out but moaning and whining instead, then he can shut the fluff up... that was his choice.

07-29-2006, 06:34 PM	#13 (permalink)
darko. Senior Member Join Date: Oct 2002 Location: shlums 'o shaolin Posts: 2,087	you shouldnt be lusting after other peolpe anyway. but thats too difficult for idiots who freak out when you notice something aesthetically pleasing. women complain about everything though, so its difficult to take their complaints seriously. its just such a stupid situation. id get a headache and then feel tired and then leave. its so childish.

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